Saturday, March 15, 2008

Anonymous acts of Kindness

Leave a bouquet of flowers on a neighbor.s front step.
Slip a $20 (or whatever you can afford) bill to a person who you know is having financial difficulty.
Select some people in your life who you feel need a special lift and send them a gift: flowers, tickets to a special event, or a gift certificate.
Leave enough money in the vending machine for the next person to get a free treat.
Purchase a copy of a book about kindness, read it, and pass it on.
Pay the toll for the person behind you.
Write something nice about your waitperson on the back of the bill.
Send a gift anonymously to a friend.
Get to work before others and leave a piece of candy, brownie, fruit, flower, etc. at every desk attached with a Smile card.
Place a flower in your neighbor.s newspaper.
Do an art project and leave it around town.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

Send a gift anonymously to a friend.... I did just that today to a friend (or who I thought was a friend?) for her birthday, a box of homemade cookies in shapes of butterflies decorated beautifully specially ordered just for her and I made a special card with butterflies and typed Happy Birthday _ _ _ _ _
and signed it, With Love from Above. (a little history...her mother passed away about 4 years ago and so loved butterflies so I thought the connection would be a favorable one). The post office suggested I put an address on the bottom of the box just in case it had to be returned, so I used a friends address. When my "birthday" friend rec'd the package, she emailed me asking if the gift might be from me. I replied saying "No, although I wish I could take credit for it but obviously it's from someone who loves you very much." The next day I rec'd a phone call from her husband telling me they investigated the address they found on the bottom of the box (written very small) and called these people and they fessed up that the gift was from me. He proceeded to tell me that I was a sick person for lying to his wife and causing her a lot of pain for they thought maybe she was a victim of a stalker. Needless to say I was shocked and profusely apologetic. He continued to ask me why I sent them anonymously and what my intentions were. After several minutes of trying to explain my simple good intentions and him refusing to accept any thing I was saying I had to hang up on him because at that point I was in tears, especially when I asked to speak to his wife (my ?friend?) to apologize that what I did caused her so much pain. He told me she did not want to speak to me because I upset her so much. In the past I have given her gifts that included butterflies and always mentioned her Mom. She seemed very happy I kept her Mom alive in my heart. I am so hurt by their accusations of being a terrible person, that I asked some of my friends their take on this and they have all told me not to let it consume me and that something else is going on in her life and unfortunately she is lashing out at me. They all said that if they rec'd cookies for their birthday anonymously and then found out it was from me, they would have thought it was a sweet thing and simply thank me. Twice I've sent gifts anonymously before and when it was revealed the gift was from me, they had a good laugh and said it was such a fun mystery trying to figure out who the gift came from. Obviously I am very upset as I really had the best intentions, but obviously I chose the WRONG person to be the recipient of my pure and simple act of kindness. I think from now on if I choose to do anymore anonymous acts of kindness, I will choose a stranger and not put an address, period! I even told the postal clerk what I was doing and she thought it was a fun idea. Unfortunately the friends address I used got the third degree when the husband tracked their name and number down and called them, but I think they know these people over reacted. At least I hope so as I have yet to talk with them, although I did leave a message and apologized getting them in the middle of this. They were not home when I called. Any thoughts would be appreciated. Thank you. Oh, by the way.... I had originally intended to hint to her that the butterfly cookies were from me "tonight" at a fundraiser event but they ended not being able to attend so I had planned to go to her house the next day (her actual birthday)with the real birthday gift, a necklace that goes with a pair of earrings I bought her the year before. Sorry this is so long but I felt I needed to give you as much information as possible so incase anyone wanted to share some "words of wisdom" with me. Thanks once again. Am I back in High School? My Goodness!!